COVERT NARCISSIST HANDBOOK
LOVE BOMING
When you are constantly showered with gifts, compliments, and attention – sometimes, even without your consent – it is known as love bombing. A narcissistic person tries to capture your attention and fancy with over-the-top gestures that tend to leave you floored. They do this to satisfy their desire for connection or manipulation
MIRRORING
It is a calculated and intentional act of mimicking another person’s body language, gestures, and speech patterns so as to make them empathize and feel connected to the narcissist.
Mirroring allows a narcissist to persuade the other person to become a fan of theirs, allowing them to get their narcissistic supply from that person.
MIMICKING
Since a narcissist has no personality of their own so we would assume that anyone mimicking them would really just be mimicking the personality of whomever the narc is mimicking. So you’d either be mimicking yourself, another person the narc is mimicking, or a compilation of characteristics gathered from several other people the narc has chosen to mimic. Fundamentally there’s nothing inside of a narc for you to mimic other than the bottomless emptiness and wickedness inside of them. If you mimic the wickedness inside of the narc they will despise you because, whether they realize it or not, the person they hate more than anyone else is themself.
PROJECTING
What Is Narcissistic projection? Freud believed
that projection is a defence mechanism – when
there’s something inside of us that we don’t like
or can’t cope with, one way to deal with it is to
project it onto someone else. We externalize it to a place where it’s easier to deal with. So that’s projection in general.
ISOLATION
Isolation is a control tactic often used by narcissists. By isolating you from family and friends, the narcissist can more easily manipulate and control you. They may do this by making you feel like you are not good enough for them, or by making you feel like you are the only one who understands them. Narcissists may also try to isolate you by making you feel like you are the only one who can help them, or by making you feel like you are the only one who can love them.
HOOK WINKED
- A hook Winked covert narcissist is one who deceives by false appearance.A covert narcissist has a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) but does not display a sense of self-importance often associated with the condition. They may deal with insecurity and low self-esteem.
- In other relationships, such as those with partners, parents, siblings, or other family members, covert narcissism might look like: A lack of empathy for the feelings, thoughts, and needs of others. Using guilt trips and shame to control others. Expecting others to care for them or solve their problems.
DEFLECTING
Deflecting is a psychological defense mechanism that people use to take the blame off of themselves. When they are deflecting, they are trying to make themselves feel less bad for their wrongdoings.
This likely happens due to past experiences of being in trouble for things. Or, it can be a sign of narcissistic behavior.
TRIANGULATION
Narcissistic triangulation is an emotional
manipulation strategy a narcissist uses to
push things in their favor. They introduce a
third party into the picture so that the
conversation or argument goes their way. If
the third person is physically present,
narcissists use triangulation to cause division.
GASLIGHTING
Narcissistic gaslighting is a form of emotional
abuse in which someone insists that your
thoughts or feelings are illegitimate. Signs that
someone is gaslighting you include lying,
exaggerating, dismissing your feelings, violating
boundaries, and refusing to admit their mistakes.
Narcissistic gaslighting can occur in many types
of relationships.
FLYING MONKEYS
FLYING MONKEYS ARE ENABLERS who act on behalf of narcissists. They are usually friends and
relatives who serve as surrogates, emissaries,
fixers and drones in the narcissist’s network.
Moreover, they make it possible for narcissists to
carry out their campaigns of abuse by proxy.
SMEAR CAMPAIGN
What is a Narcissistic Smear Campaign? A
narcissistic smear campaign is a tactic used by
narcissists to discredit and damage the
reputation of their target. Narcissists often
employ this strategy when they feel threatened
or challenged and engage in the spread of lies,
rumours, and false information about their victim.
GHOSTING
Ghosting is, without a doubt, one of the best ways
to get back at your narcissists. When you
disappear from a narcissist life and do so without
them being able to prepare for your departure
from their lives, it makes them confused. Once
a narcissist, he will batsh*t insane because, in his/her mind, they view you as their toy for plaything.
So to take yourself away from them when they
have not finished playing with you is akin to
taking away a video game from a kid who is
about to level up on a new level.
DUPE & DELIGHT
Duping delight is a particular micro expression a
person will display that betrays a sense of
enjoyment they are getting out of controlling and
deceiving another person. It is a very important
expression to watch out for in catching
dishonesty in a person.